Answer each of the following questions using the key provided. These questions will help you view how you feel about your friendship. Keep a particular friend in mind when answering the questions.

1=Never 2=Sometimes 3=Usually 4=Always

_____ Are you comfortable spending time with your friend if you don't have specific plans?

_____ Are you comfortable with your friend if there are silences during your conversation?

_____ Can you talk to your friend about disagreements and problems directly, without yelling or outbursts?

_____ Do you feel happy and proud of your friend, and not jealous, when something good happens for him/her?

_____ Do you remembers your friend's birthday and other special events in your friend's life?

_____ If you don't hear from your friend for awhile, do you worry about him/her rather than feel irritated?

_____ If your friend is sick or in trouble and needs your help, are you worried about him/her or are you irritated that you have to help them?

_____ Are you relaxed and at ease with your friend, rather than uncomfortable and on guard?

_____ Do you accept your friend's decisions and preferences instead of judging them?

_____ Despite different tastes and styles, do you and your friend basically look at life the same way?

_____ Do you know what your friend's favorite food is, what kind of music he/she likes and what he/she likes to do for fun?

_____ Do you accept your friend's relationships with other people?

_____ If you and your friend are planning to do something together, do you both give input into what you will do?

_____ Do you sincerely like your friend rather than constantly being irritated by him/her?

_____ Do you openly share your feelings with your friend?

_____ Can you comfortably ask your friend for help when you need it?

_____ If your friend needs someone to talk to, do you genuinely listen?

_____ Do you tell your friend the truth, even if it's uncomfortable for you?  Do you spare your friend the truth, it it will hurt him/her?

_____ Do you have common interests and fun together?

TOTAL ________

It may be that you and your friend are simply not as close or compatible as you thought; perhaps you are more companions than real friends. Alternatively, your answers may be revealing ways you can improve your friendship by working to be more caring, open, or tolerant.