Network of Victim Assistance (NOVA) Victim Services Crime Information

Male Sexual Assault

picture of a man on a beach Men and boys are also the victims of the crimes of sexual assault, sexual abuse, and rape. In fact, in the U.S., over 10% of all victims are male.[2]

Male survivors and others affected by sexual violence can receive free, confidential help through NOVA’s Sexual Assault Hotline, 24/7. Call 1.800.675.6900 to be connected to a counselor.

Stereotypes and Myths

There are various stereotypes and myths that impact male survivors' ability to face their sexual assault. These include:

Men are immune to victimization.
Men should be able to fight off attacks.
Men shouldn't express emotion.
Men enjoy all sex, so they must have enjoyed the assault.
Male survivors are more likely to become sexual predators.

These stereotypes and myths can then lead to certain results for male victims of sexual assault, including:

Dramatic loss of self-esteem
Belief in their masculinity
Self-blame
Feelings of shame, guilt, anger
Feelings of powerlessness, apprehension, withdrawal, and embarrassment
Fears that they won't be able to protect and support their families
Sexual difficulties
Self-destructive behavior (drinking, drug use, aggression)
Intimacy issues
Questioning of sexual identity

Barriers

Male survivors of sexual assault also may experience certain barriers to seeking support or services, either from friends and family or from organizations and institutions.

Support

It can be difficult for men to seek help for fear of how others will judge them.
Responses from friends and family can be damaging or unsupportive.

Safety

Threats to the victim of a sexual assault or his family may have been made by the perpetrator. This may cause him to keep silent.
In institutions, he may be forced to keep silent through implied and real threats both by the perpetrator and/or by others within the institution.

Privacy

He may resist reporting the sexual assault due to the need to repeat the story over and over again to police, to prosecutors, and in court.
He may be unwilling to share details of the assault in order to protect his family from societal judgment.

Self-blame

He may blame himself for the attack because he was not able to fight the aggressor off.
He may think that the assault was not rape because he became sexually aroused during the attack (i.e., he had an erection or ejaculated). This is a normal physiological reaction, NOT a sign of enjoyment.

Aftermath

Male survivors of sexual assault may experience a variety of effects that have an impact on their well-being.

Psychological

Sense of self and concept of "reality" are disrupted
Profound anxiety, depression, fearfulness, and identity confusion
Development of phobias related to the assault setting
Hypochondriacal symptoms (imaginary ailments)
Paranoia and obsessive fear of bodily harm
Withdrawal from interpersonal contact and a heightened sense of alienation
Stress-induced psycho-physiological reactions
Psychological outcomes can be severe for men because men are socialized to believe that they are immune to sexual assault and because societal reactions to these assaults can be more isolating and stigmatizing.

Heterosexual Men

He may experience “homosexual panic”- a fear that the assault will make him “become homosexual.”
He may feel that he is less of a man.

Homosexual Men

He may feel that he is being “punished” for his sexual orientation.
He may fear that he was targeted as a member of the homosexual community. This fear may lead him to withdraw from that community.
He may develop self-loathing related to his sexual orientation.

Relationships / Intimacy

Relationships may be disrupted by the assault.
Relationships may be disrupted by other's reactions to the assault such as a lack of belief/support.
Relationships may also be disrupted by the victim's reactions to the assault.

Emotional

Anger about the assault can lead to hostility.
Similarly, the overwhelming emotions that come with surviving a sexual assault can lead to emotional withdrawal.

Other Organizations

Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network www.rainn.org
National Sexual Violence Resource Center www.nsvrc.org
1in 6 http://1in6.org

If you or someone you know has been affected by sexual violence, it’s not your fault. You are not alone. Help is available 24/7 through NOVA in Bucks County (1.800.675.6900) or the National Sexual Assault Hotlines (800.656.HOPE and online.rainn.org).
Courtesy of RAINN.org

References
[1] This section was adapted from materials provided by the Texas Association Against Sexual Assault.
[2] U.S. Department of Justice. 2003 National Crime Victimization Survey. 2003.