Dating Abuse and Violence

What is Dating Abuse?

Dating abuse is a pattern of controlling behavior that  someone uses against a girlfriend or boyfriend. It can range from verbal and  emotional abuse — name-calling, constant insults, controlling what one wears,  isolation from family or friends — to physical violence and sexual abuse.  Dating abuse can happen to anyone. We all have the right to be treated with respect.


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Dating Violence Quiz

Does your boyfriend or girlfriend:

  • Control where you go, what you wear, or what you  do?
  • Try to stop you from seeing or talking to family  or friends?
  • Force you to do something sexual when you don’t  want to?
  • Call you derogatory names, put you down or  criticize you?
  • Threaten or scare you?
  • Hit, slap, push or kick you?

If you answered YES to any of these questions, your health  and safety may be at risk.

Choose to Date. Choose to be  Safe.

These are your dating rights and responsibilities. You have  the right …

  • To be treated with respect.
  • To be in a healthy relationship.
  • To not be abused — physically, sexually or  emotionally.
  • To feel safe in a relationship.
  • To leave a relationship at any time.

You have the responsibility …

  • To determine your limits and values.
  • To refuse to abuse — physically, sexually or  emotionally.
  • To respect your boyfriend’s or girlfriend’s  limits, values, feelings and beliefs.
  • To not exert power or control in a relationship.
  • To ask for help from friends, family and trusted  adults.